10 Curly Hair Styling Mistakes That Are Killing Your Curls

10 Curly Hair Styling Mistakes That Are Killing Your Curls

Oh the days of trying to style your curls only to end up with stringy, crunchy straw-like curls. This is something every curly girl has dealt with more often than not. Today I am sharing 10 Curly Hair Styling Mistakes That Are Killing Your Curls.

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I remember being in college and trying desperately to get my curls to cooperate.

Because who the heck has hours to spend straightening their hair when taking a full load of college classes and working a job in your spare time. 

To no avail, my curls were stringy and crunchy which is why I spent many years straightening my hair.

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It wasn’t until my thirties that I started to really embrace my curls. In doing so, I learned that having gorgeous curls starts far before you style. 

Curls are temperamental and it takes establishing a healthy hair care routine to nourish them and allow them to flourish.

If your curls are less than desirable, chances are you are making a few mistakes early on in the process that are killing your curl vibes.

Note: Keep in mind that all curls are different. The information I will share below is based on what generally works for curls hair. If something does not work for you, experiment and find something that does. Often moving a product a step up in your wash routine or using a product differently can make a world of difference. 

10 Curly Hair Styling Mistakes That Are Killing Your Curls

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10 Curly Hair Styling Mistakes That Are Killing Your Curls

Washing Too Often 

Washing your hair every day is a curl killer. Curls need natural oils to thrive. Over cleansing can strip your hair of those oils leaving your curls dry and damaged. 

Stretch your wash days apart as much as possible by finding creative ways to refresh your curls. 

I use my hair dance dry shampoo and leave in conditioning spray to help stretch my washday

Not Using Curl Specific Shampoo

Traditional shampoos will pretty much sign a death warrant for your curls. Most shampoos contain sulfate which is what causes them to bubbles. Sulfates lift the hair cuticle and cause your hair to frizz. 

Always cleanse curly hair with a gentle, sulfate-free cleanser or co-wash. 

I love Devacurls no-poo cleanser.

Not Keeping Track Of You Curly Journey

One HUGE mistake I see curly girls make is jumping into their curly girl journey with no plan of tracking their progress. 

There is nothing more frustrating than trying to re-create a bomb wash day but failing miserably because you didn’t follow the same steps. 

After many wash day fails, I decided to develop a detailed system that helps me keep track of what works and what doesn’t work for me hair.

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Not Sleeping On Silk Or Satin

Most pillowcases are made of fabric that is abrasive which causes friction when you sleep. This creates unwanted frizz and breakage which destroys your curls. 

Because silk is made of smooth material, it will allow your curls to glide across your pillowcase without disrupting them. Silk also allows your hair to retain moisture throughout the night. 

If you are feeling a little overwhelmed about trying to care for your curls, I have a simple 5-step guide that will walk you through each step. Get it here!

If you want healthy curls, protect them while you sleep. Opt for a silk cap and/or pillowcase. You can read more about night protection here

I use and love the scrunch it nightcap and this silk pillowcase. 

Skipping The Deep Conditioning Treatment 

People always tell me they don’t have time to deep condition. From now on, consider deep conditioning to your hair like brushing your teeth. It’s not an option. 

If your hair is damaged or dry, you need to deep condition once per week CONSISTENTLY. 

Deep conditioning restores moisture, repairs, and strengthens your curls. So make it a weekly habit. 

I love Shae Moistures Masque and Devacurl’s heaven in hair deep conditioner.

Pulling Your Hair Back Tightly 

Yes. Pulling your hair in that tight top knot is a big fat no no. It causes stress and breakage on your hair and can cause hairless. Something none of us can afford especially as we age.

Use nondamaging hair tie or apuff cuff to pull your hair back. I use both for different reasons.

Skipping The Leave-In Conditioner 

Curls need moisture to thrive. A leave-in conditioner is a way to add light moisture before you style your hair without weighing it down. 

I typically apply mine in the shower and scrunch it in my hair focusing on the tips. Then I let it sit a bit on my hair before I style it. 

I am currently using Curls leave-in conditioner and loving it. 

Styling On Damp Or Dry Hair 

The best way to create stringy, crunchy hair is to style it damp or dry. In most cases.

I have seen a few curlies who like to style their hair while its damp verses wet and have great results. But typically speaking, it’s best to style on wet hair.

Curly hair is the most smooth when it is wet which is the perfect time to apply and style it. Once you have styled your hair, let it dry completely before you touch it. 

Then use a good oil to scrunch out the gel cast. Read more about how to SOTC here.

I use and love righteous roots hair oil.

Using Products With Sulphates, Silicone, and Parabens 

Say goodbye to products with sulfates, silicones, and parabens if you want luscious curls.

Sulfates: strip your hair of natural oils and lift the hair shaft causing frizz. 

Silicones: cover the hair shaft giving it that shiny look. But they are just coating your hair strand and acting as a filler which eventually causes build up.

Parabens: are a preservative that helps deteriorate mold. They can cause your hair to frizz and dry out. Parabens can enter your body through your scalp and pores which can be dangerous to your health. 

Swap out any products containing these ingredients and choose clean natural products.

How To Style 3A Curls Using Mousse
How To Style 3A Curls Using Mousse

Applying Conditioner To Your Roots 

When conditioner is applied directly to your roots, it can weigh your hair down and cause your hair to look flat and oily. 

It will also kill any idea you have of creating volume.

Always apply your conditioner a few inches away from your roots to avoid flat, oily-looking hair. 

Not Using Stylers

Leave-in conditioners and oils are not stylers. In order to hold your curl pattern, you need to apply products that are labeled as anti-frizz, frizz-free, or curl enhancing.

These products are designed to hold and will help keep your curly pattern in place and frizz at bay. 

Always grab for a gel, mousse, or curl cream to style your curls. 

I love Aussie instant free gel and mouse.

In Conclusion: Great curls start long before you style them.

Limit how often you cleanse, choose products wisely, protect your curls, and incorporate consistent healthy hair habits into your daily routine. 

Then and only then will you curls thrive. And you will truly love your curls.



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10 thoughts on “10 Curly Hair Styling Mistakes That Are Killing Your Curls”

  1. I had wavy, light curls on my hair. The curls seemed full when my hair was wet. I had a baby 5 yrs ago, breastfed her, & lost all my curls. My hair is straight, poofy, & light curls when wet. I really want my curls again so I’ve been doing the curl method, just started 2 days ago. I’m hoping that it works.

  2. Hi Colleen, I just discovered you via Delilah, the holistic enchilada. So glad to have found you! A question for you…my hair is SUPER baby fine and does not handle products well. I have at this time about 2b curls. Do you recommend leaves ins and masks even for hair like mine? It gets so limp from being weighed down by moisturizers and heavy hair products. I make my own flaxseed gel, but I have to make a very lite version, other wise it gets really sticky and goey from the flax. I don’t come across very often curlies/wavies that have hair like mine. ;-(

    • if DC are weighing your hair down, definitely skip them. Would aim for once per month. All curly hair is so different and it’s important to find what works for yours <3


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