Since I told my lovely friends about this page, I’ve realized that it must look MAD to non-curly people so here’s a quick intro for the lucky ones with frizz-free shiny locks:
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A Letter To Non-Curly People
You may envy our sometimes-bouncy voluminous curls but lots of us curly crew have struggled with our hair since our well-meaning mothers brushed it until we looked like 6-year-old Guns N’ Roses members. We mainly now only detangle when our hair is wet.
We spent our teens straightening our hair or wearing gallons of mousse which gave that delightful crunchy look.
Many of us are now following the scientific but daft-sounding Curly Girl Method with the aim of improving our curls and hair health by avoiding sulfates, silicones, and heat styling. It helps wavy hair and straight too – try it, but be warned, it can get weird.
Big occasions can be tricky and have often involved getting a salon to blowdry to avoid the confidence-knocking drama our wayward curls bring.
It’s not always easy to love our natural hair. Most red-carpet-walkers have silky straight hair or perfectly-wanded waves. The exceptions you’re thinking of are just that.
Hair isn’t everything but we do sometimes plan our week around when we wash our hair because it is WORK.
Curls are unpredictable. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. You can use the same techniques and products two wash-days in a row and get different results due to humidity or hard water.
Cotton pillowcases = frizz. Hence the bonnets/buffs and silky scarves.
Lots of us got more compliments when we straightened our hair or have felt the need to do so to look more professional.
Hair is political. Hair discrimination very much exists. We’re indebted to WOC and black women for curl-care info and many of the products we use.
Just one ask. Tell curly people that their hair looks great but don’t touch it. And if they straighten it, tell them it looks fab but that it ALSO looks great curly.
Anything I’ve missed?
Next check out What is the curly girl method.
4 thoughts on “A Letter To Non-Curly People”
Yes yeS yES YES!! I love and hate when people admire my curls. They think that I buy ONE product that “makes” my hair curly. I wish. My MIL rolls her eyes every time I talk about “my whole ritual”. It is work. But, that work is care. The same you would use with diet or exercise. Why is this different? It’s a part of me, and he’ll yeah, I have a “ritual”!
Yes!! So dang true. People don’t get it.
I read your open letter and found myself nodding away. Finally someone who gets it! Nearly every straight-haired person I know would always comment on how easy I had it and how lucky I was to have hair I could just ‘leave to its own devices’.
I was tired of magazine articles giving advice on curly hair only for the ‘model’ to have slightly wavy hair and not the ringlets and frizz I did battle with every day.
So when I had my son 12 years ago, I started shaving my head as I found it easier to manage. Now, because of lockdown here in the UK, my curls are coming back and I am going to follow your advice and see if I can learn to love them again at 47. So thank you!
It’s my pleasure! I would love to see your progress!